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Rise and SHINE (Part 3)

According to an article titled, Develop a New Habit, written by Steven Aitchison, it takes 21 days to develop a habit. When Aitchison talks about developing a new habit, he says, “don’t tell yourself you are doing it for life, tell yourself (your conscious brain) that you are going to try it for 21 days.” In a way, Aitchison illustrates a story such as talking to your conscious mind. In terms of sleep, if you tell yourself, I am going to wake up early for the rest of my life, your conscious mind might be like, “Woah, I’ve been waking up half past noon for the past 10 years and there isn’t any online blog that will change that!” Instead, if you tell your mind that you want to give waking up early a try for 21 days, your mind will be more willing to cooperate.

The key is, during those 21 days, neural pathways will begin to form with your new routine of waking up early. By the 21st day, your routine of waking up early will be like second nature to you.One technique that you can use to help keep yourself on track is to type up a small calendar. On that calendar, mark your start date and end date. From the first day until the last, write down the time you wake up every day. If you find yourself slowly starting to wake up later and later, you have the power to put yourself back on track. Yes, I said you have the power!

You see, forming habits is not just for waking up early, it is the key to mastering self-discipline. “Discipline is all about cultivating powerful habits that become part of your lifestyle. At one point those habits can become your identity.” – Robin Crow. The habits that you develop within your life-time are the habits that will define you as a person. Let the habits you develop make a positive difference in your life and the lives of others. If this is your first time attempting to start a new habit, congratulations! You have taken a step away from the sidelines and into the game of life. View this as a growing and learning opportunity for yourself. Once you master waking up early, continue to practice your new skill and seek out habits that will shape your identity.

My goal and hope for the Rise and Shine series is to inspire readers to wake up and view everyday day as an opportunity and blessing from God. Do not let your sleeping habits define your lifestyle. Instead, wake up with a so good I can hardly stand it attitude and jump out of bed, ready to change our world!

Consider this…

I am your constant companion.

I am your greatest asset or heaviest burden.

I will push you up to success or down to disappointment.

I am at your command.

Half the things you do might just as well be turned over to me.

For I can do them quickly, correctly and profitably.

I am easily managed; just be firm with me.

Those who are great, I have made great.

Those who are failures, I have made failures.

I am not a machine, though I work with the precision of a

machine and the intelligence of a person.

You can run me for profit, or you can run me for ruin.

Show me how you want it done. Educate me. Train me.

Lead me. Reward me.

And I will then do it automatically.

I am your servant.

Who am I?

I am a habit.

-from Rock Solid Leadership, by Robin Crow

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Inside Out – The Reversal

“The Lord works from the inside out.  The world
works from the outside in.  The world
would take people out of the slums.  Christ
takes the slums out of people, and then they
take themselves out of the slums.  The world
would mold men by changing their
environment.  Christ changes men, who then
change their environment.  The world would
shape human behavior, but Christ can change
human nature.”

~ Ezra Taft Benson

Changing People

The definition of leadership that I like most is by Peter Drucker who says, ” Leadership is lifting a person’s vision to a higher sight, the raising of a person’s performance to a higher standard, the building of their personality beyond its normal limitations.”  Two important things jump out at me.  First, his definition focuses on people (super important, but a lesson for another time).  Second, it focuses on changing those people ie. lifting visions, raising performance, building personalities.  So at some level if leaders are to lead in this manner they have to be able to influence people to change.

A leader cannot directly or forcibly change anyone, but a leader does have influence.  This is like parents influencing their children to make good choices.  The power to make a decision still rests with the child, but the lens through which he/she views the decision has been shaped by the parents.  One of the best ways to influence followers is to establish the right environment.  Peer pressure, which can be positive or negative, is a great example of environmental influence.  John Maxwell outlines 10 tips for a successful growth environment (which is good for both a leader and his/her followers):

  1. Others are ahead of me.  I’m not the head of the class.  I have the opportunity to learn from those who are better than me.
  2. I am continually challenged.  I must study, learn and practice to master the tasks ahead of me.
  3. My focus is forward, not backward.  Yesterday is a history lesson, tomorrow is where the potential is.
  4. The atmosphere is affirming.  People believe in me and my cause and they encourage me.
  5. I am out of my comfort zone but not out of my gift zone.  It isn’t easy what I am trying to achieve.
  6. I wake up excited.  I can hardly wait for the day to begin.
  7. Failure is not my enemy.  Understood correctly, failure can be one of my best friends.
  8. Other people around me are growing.  I am not the only one who is learning and growing.
  9. People desire change.  They want to learn, change and become better.
  10. Growth is modeled and growth is expected. I can see it around me and I am expected to grow

Check out John Maxwell’s video about personal growth environments:

Put someone in the environment described above and their vision would be raised, their performance would be improved, and their personality would be built almost by osmosis from the people and activities around them!  The outcome and the process would be much better than if a leader tried to shove some change down the person’s throat.  Friends can make up one of the most influential environments.  Last week, Bethany posted about the amazing influence that her friends had on her.  Take a look at the environments that you spend the most time in, and the people that you spend the most time around.  Are they serving you the way that you want them to?  If not, what’s your first step to change?

Another powerful lesson in changing people is preventive maintenance.  Milton Jones says, “It’s easier to build children than to repair men.”  If a high vision, improved performance, and great personality can be established in a person before they develop bad habits there will be no need for change!  It is easier to build people right the first time, than to change them once they have gone astray.  As a leader, plan your training effectively, do not make decisions that you could not live with for a lifetime, and intimately know the needs, wants, and dreams of your followers.  A little preventive maintenance can go a long way to making change and building influence in the future.

So can you change someone?  Short answer: no, but you can influence them.  In the end, take a lesson from Nike’s playbook and “Just Do It.”  Elbert Hubbard says, “The man who says it can’t be done is generally interrupted by someone doing it.”